Let's be honest with ourselves here. You can't have everything you want. You know that.
Most of us have everything we need. But we will never have everything we want.
What matters so much that you compromise other areas of your life so you achieve this thing, this want. Where does the want come from that you're willing to go out of your way working toward it?
I don't need this to become an exercise in therapy but I do want you to think about this. I want anyone who reads to ask themselves, What do I really want?
For years now I've had two little sticky notes next to my bed and my bike trainer. They say "How badly do you want it?" and "Are you giving 100%?".
Just like the saying "you make time for the things you want to make time for", I believe you give real effort to the things you really want to give real effort too. You give 100% effort when you want it enough. No matter what that 100% looks like.
You can't have everything you want. So what do you want that you'll be willing to give 100% to? A relationship? Boston marathon qualification? Grad school? Your kids?
The more you attempt to spread your effort across more wants, the less you can give to each of them.
And it's OK to not give everything 100%. You don't need every hobby to be a world-class endeavor. Prioritization of wants becomes the key.
I am proof in attempting the perfect and delicious 'want pudding'. That is, if you want too many things you become paralyzed, tired, distracted and unable to want anything at all. You become pudding. A smush of stuff. You don't know what you want anymore. I don't know what I really want anymore.
I've been thinking about this topic a lot lately. I've been asked the question "what do I want?" by a half dozen people. I've struggled with an answer.
Today I read a post that reframed the 'want question' into a caring question. What do you care enough about to leave other things behind? This is equally difficult for me to answer but one point became illuminated in my mind.
I want people to know I really care. And caring makes me better at what I do. No matter what I do.
Maybe I just want to care about people and help them. That's everything I want. And it is as simple as that.
Today is a good day to care.
March 13, 2021